Sunday, September 2, 2018

Judge and Journey

"No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of another." Charles Dickens

We each have our own ideas about how life ought to be lived. 

The internal compass of right vs. wrong guiding our individual choices is rooted in our upbringing and personal experiences.

However, no matter how invested we may be in our own belief systems, it is important to maintain a spirit of openness to the energy of transformation; ours and that of others.

Seasons change as do people. We must keep in mind that our way of being "right", may be "just right" for us, but a whole lot of "just wrong" for someone else.

Distracting our attention from the messiness in our lives with the business of someone else's can be tempting. To fix our gaze upon the journey of another, however, does not eliminate the need to work toward improvement in our own circumstances. 

Our primary focus must land within our own journey. As my granddaddy used to say, "if you can't help, don't hinder." 

"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up." ~ Jesse Jackson

If you feel you must address another individual's growth challenges, do so with grace. Showing compassion, not cruelty must be the currency of our intention.
  
Don't make someone regret having shared a secret with you in confidence. Don't leave someone lamenting that they permitted themselves to be vulnerable in your presence. Be careful not to brag about overcoming in the midst of a dark valley experience someone may be immersed in. 

While helping someone to claim a victory is not the time to celebrate your own.

We must learn ways to offer support in a spirit of love and understanding that heals, transforms, and increases peace. 

Hand hold without being haughty.
Assist without shaming.
Provide guidance without aggrandizement.
Counsel without condemnation.

You cannot judge and journey well.

There is a danger in judgment. One can make a fellow traveler fearful of reaching out for help when most in need of it.  Grant the assurance of knowing you will be waiting with open arms as they come through a trial triumphantly on the other side.

All have fallen short and none of us is perfect. None of us has all the answers, but we can explore the questions along the path to the discovery of our better to best selves.

Check your intention to help or to hinder. 

Have you been a help or a hindrance to the lives of others?
What is your intention when you question the growth challenges of a fellow traveler?
What aspects of your personal journey are most in need of your undivided attention?


"Counting other people's sins does not make you a saint." ~ Unknown


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